All of the proving, validating, controlling, and desiring arise because of misperceived inherent identity.
The notion of being an individual entity with a beginning and end, soul and fate, success and failure, is the very cause of our suffering. Such a notion of individuality is also false.
And it is because of the individual’s falseness that we then strive so hard to assert it. We need confidence, we need love, we need the objects of our desire and the causes of our happiness. We need validation.
In the end, we are attempting to secure something that is ultimately unsecurable. False individuality (ego) is synonymous with insecurity. Because essential eternity is our innermost intimate reality, we will always on one level or another intuit our games of individuality to be a sham. And that is the feeling of insecurity from which we try to escape, validate, or distract ourselves.
The “I am” is a very good clue to follow. It has no location, no beginning, and no absence. You are not identifiable by what you experience, be that a mood, a concept, a sensory perception, a body, or any particular combination of things. Yet the “I am” is still there, so apparent and obvious that it is so often overlooked.
If you are looking for good guidance and commentary on such an approach, I’d recommend the teachers of Advaita such as Nisargadatta Maharaj, Ramana Maharshi, Mooji, Adyashanti, Master Nome, Siddharameshwar Maharaj, The Ashtavakra Gita, and Papaji.
Namaste my friend.
She is not “my girl.”
She belongs to herself. And I am blessed, for with all her freedom, she still comes back to me, moment-to-moment, day-by-day, and night-by-night.
How much more blessed can I be?
— Avraham Chaim, Thoughts after The Alchemist (via peachiegrl)